Few lessons to learn from a non-social networking socialite!



Long long long ago I once used Facebook …….and that’s it! Then I never used it again.


To your surprise I’ve been asked a million times why I don’t use Facebook and even have been interviewed a couple of times for that.


My simple answer would be I never felt the need to use social media ever since.


Ever since? Yes I started using Facebook when the social media craze started. Wait! To be honest I also used Orkut.

Yes! I am that old. (For those who know what Orkut really was)


Anyways! As I was saying. I used it for a year I think. I also made a page for my small clothing business which didn't go very well.

Eventually one day I thought it’s more of a fake book then Facebook for me.

You don’t agree with me?

Just think for a second have we never pressed like even if we don’t like something on Facebook at all. Don’t you hate it when you see on Facebook that Sarah’s boyfriend is sexier than yours and loves and cares about her too?


How many a times have we taken a picture to really cherish a memory for long, rather so we can put it on Snapchat, Instagram or Facebook, so we can show people how happy we are although we are dying from multiple anxiety disorders?


 I can go on with the examples because my list of reasons is long enough to provide you with facts.


But then the major dilemma is even if you agree with me, and one day you decide  you want to quit a few or all of the social media sites. What the hell will you do in all the free time you will now have that you wasted using social media sites for years?


So let me throw some light on the basic psychological changes I made in my life after I dump Social media sites.


1.    Got rid of multiple insecurities caused by seeing stupid useless stuff on those social media sites.

2.      Started loving who I was.
3.      Started enjoying life for real

4.  Got close to people who really cared about me.

5.   Got out of the delusional world that did not exist.

  Believe it or not unconsciously using these sites do create considerate level of peer pressure, anxiety and self-image issues and I only realized it after I stopped using them.

After all, living an anxiety free life is what we all want. But very few of us know that unconsciously social media is one of the biggest reason for anxiety.

Recent studies show that a lot of depression is being developed in people by using social media for long duration and it will become a major cause of disability in high income countries till 2030. Kudos! to people living in a low income country though!





Other than all those psychological changes I also started to do a few more things.
I spent time with books and real people to know their real emotions, to know what they really face in the world and understood that life is not as easy as hitting the like button or updating a status. It’s about connecting with those who need you, putting a smile on people's face who haven’t smiled for ages, cherishing moments that leave you with goosebumps and feelings of joy that you can never feel looking at a picture.

After all life is beyond the keyboards of our phones and laptops rather it’s in the eyes of those who capture memories forever in their hearts!

Though I may not say stop using these social media sites! I might say start living in reality a little more so that our hearts can beat a little louder.


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